Jessica slept really well tonight. She did not sleep long, but well! She wanted her new portable DVD player. I have to watch her when she uses it. I don't want her to break it. We need it for the trip. She was sitting there watching Thumbelina and all of a sudden she points to the prince and says "Daddy"! I was stunned! Jessica turns 15 years old in 1 1/2 weeks and she has never once said those beautiful words! I said,” Yes Jessica, Daddy is a prince"! Thank you for your good prayers! I’m so amazed!
Thursday, August 31, 2006
Wednesday, August 30, 2006
Good News (I think)! We got our police clearance in the mail today. We should be able to FedEx everything to our agency in the morning. The bad news is that the police clearance is still only in German. It has German federal seals on it, a requirement, but no English translation. I'm sure it will be worked out by our agency! It will unfortunately take some more time! I am trying really hard to not stress out over things I can not control, which seems to be just about everything! Some times it seems like you jump one hurdle only to find another hurdle standing in your road! I have faith that we will finish this process and finally travel to
Anyway, most people in
I just love those words, and just which one would I do without? I am so grateful to
God for my family and friends. I could not do without you!
Tuesday, August 29, 2006
I've been writing allot lately about our oldest son Thomas. We have two sons adopted from Thailand. Our first son is Philip. He was adopted when he was only 2 1/2 years old. He doesn't really remember not being our son! I have a friend who gave me a golden fork she swiped from the first class of Korean airlines. Philip always eats with this fork. He has the identity of a prince! I am very glad about this! Our trip to Thailand is mainly an attempt to build up the self worth of Thomas who was adopted at almost 7 years of age, and see's himself as an orphan!
The other day I was shopping with the boys. We were talking about the trip, and about birthmothers. I think Thomas really stopped listening. He only wanted to think about the swimming pool in Bangkok. Philip kept asking questions. He is beginning to really understand there is a birth mother, and father in Thailand. A family he may never know. Juergen and I plan to have a ceremony with the boys at the beach to honor those parents. We want to light some candles and set them adrift on the sea, and pray for these people who gave them the gift of life! Adoption has been in many ways like winning the lottery for the boys. But this is only one side of the coin. They won a new family, opportunities, health care, and a good education. They also lost a family, a culture, a language, growing up connected to a past. Philip is beginning to understand this loss. We hope we can help both boys understand, and feel comfortable with who they are (all of who they are). This photo was taken of Philip the first time we met him almost 5 1/2 years ago)
Thailand has really wonderful weather in December and January! The rainy season goes from May until November. September can be rainy or sunny! We are hoping for more sun then rain! Timing wise, this is when we could go! It's been raining for the last two weeks in Germany too. The rain in Thailand is at least warm!
Monday, August 28, 2006
Well, only 4 more days until we go to
We fly on Sept. 2nd at 8 pm direct to Bangkok from Frankfurt
We get to Bangkok around noon Thai time
Our hotel is the Riverfront residence (3 nights)
We visit the orphanage that Philip and Thomas were in Sept 4th
Thomas has his 9th birthday on Sept 5th, and we may visit the floating market
We travel to HuaHin 3 hours south of Bangkok on Sept 6th
We will be staying at a vacation apartment right on the beach
Jessica's birthday is Sept 8th
I'm sure we will take a few tours from HuaHin, but spend most of our time in the pool and eating ,reading and sleeping
We return to Germany on Sept 14th late at 11pm direct overnight flight
Back home on the morning of Sept 15th
We can receive e-mail at www.ja_heymann@yahoo.com
I know we will have e-mail in Bangkok, but I don't know about HuaHin? If you are a friend or family our house sitter will have more detailed contact information in case of an emergency.
Thank you very much for your prayers, especially for the flight! It is really a big deal to us taking Jessica on a flight again. We really need Gods grace and help!
Sunday, August 27, 2006
Hello,
I thought you might like to know that I have created a Baby Registry at Amazon.com. You can find it anytime Here!
The register mainly has books that I loved reading to the kids, but have gotten worn out or torn up by Jessica. Amazon lists used or discounted books. The registry only lists Amazons prices, but if you click on the book or video titles, they will show you the best price and it is often even under one dollar! Some are only 1 cent. I don't care if it is used! If fact, some of the books are not available new, you have to buy them used! I don't want people to spend allot of money. We are definitely "it is the thought that counts" kind of people! This is just what I am wishing for! All the Amazon stuff will be shipped to my parent’s house in
Saturday, August 26, 2006
Gearing up for our big trip! God willing, we will be leaving for
Friday, August 25, 2006
"We do not know if this rumor is true, but Holt adoption agency
reported the CCAA will no longer approve adoption applicants that:
Are older than 45
Single
Do not have some college education
Have a history of any major illness
Have a history of any arrests
Are extremely obese."
Juergen is 47 years old and we have 4 kids at home. I contacted my agency to ask if this affects us. They haven't gotten back to me. I'm guessing if it is true, it doesn't affect us because we have already been Pre Approved. It did make me really sad (understatement) to think we could have missed Sarah if these rules were being implemented now. I imagine they will begin to place restrictions on the Chinese adoption program soon. I hope this doesn't apply to the special needs kids.
We got the new copy of Juergens International Birth certificate today. Now all we are waiting for is the New International Police reports. We live in
Thursday, August 24, 2006
Nanjing survivor gets legal win
Click on the title for the CNN story about the survivor of the massacre in Naning, Sarah's home town.Hi, I just read a post about a 13 year old girl who is near sighted living in the SWI in
Her File
Up date: I asked about this girl, and just got this e-mail from the agency. Wow! That was quick!
...She is on hold for a family at this time with a
few families in the wings so I believe she will get placed.
Wednesday, August 23, 2006
Hi, how do you like the new Andrea Bocelli music? I could listen to this man sing day and night! He is going to be performing in
Speaking of music, my son Thomas wants to take drum lessons. I've been wondering if I should allow him to learn the drum, or encourage him to study another instrument. I learned to play the drums when I was a kid. After a few years it gets kind of boring. You need a band to play with. Maybe I should encourage him to play something like guitar. You can always play a guitar- alone or in a group. There is always a need for a guitar player. Should I start him on something I am pretty sure he will not stick with, or encourage him to begin something he could stick with? What do you think?
Tuesday, August 22, 2006
by Debbie Bodie
I saw you meet your child today You kissed your baby joyfully And as you walked away with her I played pretend you'd chosen me.
I saw you meet your child today | I recognize you from last year! I knew I'd seen your face before! But you came for a second baby. Does no-one want a child of four?
Can this be true? I'm almost six! |
(China Daily)
Updated: 2006-08-22 09:03
A 10-year-old boy took care of a baby girl for hours one day last week, after seeing the baby abandoned inside a corridor of a residential building in Chengdu of Sichuan Province.
The boy found the baby while visiting a friend who lived in the building. To help calm down the crying baby, he bought a feeding bottle, fed her and then took her to hospital for a health check until police were called to take care of her.
Monday, August 21, 2006
Sunday, August 20, 2006
Hi, I read this interesting post from the wonderful mother of 9 children. She is working on the papers needed to adopt number 10 from
Abbey, we have adopted 2 older kids, and had (American) adolescent foster
girls with difficult life experiences. Our son Tom was adopted at the age of 6
from
foster family. He came to us with a history of food deprivation, beatings and
very little discipline. He was very impulsive and indiscriminately
affectionate. He also had some sensory issues (and still at the age of 15 will
smell
unfamiliar things.........) because we were prepared for some issues (such
as hoarding,) he has made great progress! My Mother in Law is a social
worker and the best advice she ever gave us was "Some things you can change,
the
rest of the stuff you have to learn how to live with." He is a great kid!!
He has excelled in school. He is a very serious guy, and humor sometimes
confuses him, but he no problem fitting in with his friends.
Our daughter Bethany was 8 when we brought her home from
had lived in a Social Welfare Home her entire life. She had no Idea what a
family was, or what love was. She was attending school and had a best friend
who was adopted a few weeks before she came home. She was eager to make
friends and with some help learning about American social behavior, is now a
very happy and popular 13 year old. Kids from institutions may have behavior
that they developed while institutionalized, where the fastest strongest or
loudest got their needs met first. They may have skipped some developmental
stages we would consider normal in our culture, and may need to go through
those stages. They may seem immature when compared to American born peers.
flight attendant handed her a glass of juice with ice and she reached in and
grabbed the ice cube, giggling as it melted down her arm! Neither
or
our kids spoke any English when we met them. Tommy decided he was finished
during dinner (while we were in
play. The problem was we were in a hotel in the middle of
after him, through the hotel kitchen yelling in broken Thai “NO NO! Stop
THAT! “I am sure the kitchen staff who jumped out of the way were quite
shocked to see a large blond American woman chasing after a little Thai boy,
but
scolded him as we walked back through..... Learning some of their language
and picture dictionaries have been a great help. With both adoptions we
relied heavily upon our in country agency staff. We "baby "
proofed
our home (since many of the things we are accustomed to are new and exciting
to an institutionally raised child,) such as light switches, door
bells........... We backtracked and did a lot of fun preschool level play (
finger
painted, clay drawing, bubbles singing silly songs, watching preschool level
developmental programs) to help provide a foundation for bonding , language
social and developmental growth. Tommy at the age of 15 now is an A+ student
& football player (although he still struggles with culturally based
language issues, he has the tools to help himself understand.)
does
well at school, but would rather be shopping with her friends....... They are
both happy (most of the time, they are adolescents......) well adjusted,
bright and loving kids. We have several Special needs kids too, and Tom and
Beth are very loving and compassionate with their sibs. Would we do it again??
Yep, still working on paperwork to bring our 11 year old daughter home from
Shenzen. I would be happy to answer your questions, if you have specific
areas of concern. Debbie Mom to 9 and waiting for # 10 Leann , age 11, waiting
child repaired club foot.
I'm reprinting this funny story just written by an online friend named Karen. She just returned from
Gary and I took the kids out to eat Chinese last night and afterwards we |
Saturday, August 19, 2006
I am up late. Jessica, who has sleeping problems from time to time, is also up! I just read this beautiful quote. I thought I would write it down...
Life is like a piece of needle work, but we live on the bottom side
of it. All we see are the twisted and knotted mess of thread. It is
not until we are in heaven that we get to see the beautiful picture.
We just don't see our lives the way that God does!
Friday, August 18, 2006
I was having breakfast with Jessica (my autistic daughter who does not talk) and Thomas (my almost 9 year old son who was adopted from
Thursday, August 17, 2006
I've been bringing my kids to a vacation Bible school this week at a local Baptist church. We attend a German church. This Baptist church is in English. It’s mainly an outreach to American military. Tonight I went to pick Philip and Thomas up, and the teacher told me that Thomas had prayed with a teacher to receive Jesus as his savior! I'm not really sure he understood what he was doing? Still, it brought a tear to my eye. I know he has a spiritual hunger. I also know that he has feelings of loss only the Holy Spirit can heal! I'm going to try to bring my kids to this church for their AWANA program. They seem to have really wonderful teachers. The kids have really enjoyed this vacation Bible school! They have a performance tomorrow night. When we adopt, we want to give our children everything; love, good food, education ect. I am so blessed to also introduce them to Jesus! For me, this is the best thing I can give them!
I got this thoughtful e-mail from the family that took the picture of Sarah. They say she is doing well, and so I feel a little bit of comfort. Thank God for the kind feed back!
Amy.
Your daughter seems fine. The red that you are seeing is medicine.
I took a picture of her because she was smiling,talking and
laughting at us. She is a very beautiful child.
Ennes and Kim
Wednesday, August 16, 2006
New photo of Sarah. It looks really bad! I don't know what the red on her feet is? Could it be medicine for bites? She isn't looking too good! I read it's very hot there right now! If you notice (and I did) she also had red on her feet in the pictures from Aug.10th. I'm sure it's medicine. She doesn't look to good in light blue. She needs some darker richer colors like red and black! It also looks like she is tied to her bed. I've read they do that in
Tuesday, August 15, 2006
I just talked to Juergen. It will take WEEKS to authenticate the two documents we have missing. WEEKS!!! I can not express how very sad I feel! I want to kick a hole in a wall. I am so frustrated! I just read a post on a yahoo group that said people who send their documents to
Some would gather money
Along the path of life
Some would gather roses
And rest from worldly strife
But I would gather children
From among the thorns of sin
I would seek a golden curl
And a freckled, toothless grin
For money cannot enter
In that land of endless day
And roses that are gathered
Soon will wilt along the way
But oh, the laughing children
As I cross the sunset sea
And the gates swing wide to heaven
I can take them in with me!
Friday, August 11, 2006
It's my daughter Nicole’s 13th birthday. We took a long wet ride to
Thursday, August 10, 2006
Wednesday, August 09, 2006
What Now? -Steven Curtis Chapman
saw the face of Jesus in a little orphan girl
She was standing in the corner on the other side of the world
And I heard the voice of Jesus gently whisper to my heart
Didn't you say you wanted to find me?
Well here I am, here you are
So, What now?
What will you do now that you found Me?
What now?
What will you do with this treasure you've found?
I know I may not look like what you expected
But if you remember this is right where I said I would be
You've found me
What now?
And I saw the face of Jesus down on Sixteenth Avenue
He was sleeping in an old car, while his mom went looking for food
And I heard the voice of Jesus gently whisper to my soul
Didn't you say you wanted to know me?
Well here I am, and it's getting cold
Monday, August 07, 2006
Well, we still haven't sent our papers to
Saturday, August 05, 2006
From OLIVER
Who will buy
this wonderful morning?
Such a sky
you never did see!
Who will tie
it up with a ribbon
and put it in a box for me?
So I could see it at my leisure
whenever things go wrong
and I would keep it as a treasure
to last my whole life long.
Who will buy
this wonderful feeling?
I'm so high
I swear I could fly.
Me, oh my!
I don't want to lose it
so what am I to do
to keep the sky so blue?
There must be someone who will buy...
Who will buy
this wonderful morning?
Such a sky
you never did see!
Who will tie
it up with a ribbon
and put it in a box for me?
There'll never be a day so sunny,
it could not happen twice.
Where is the man with all the money?
It's cheap at half the price!
Who will buy
who will buy
this wonderful feeling?
I'm so high
I swear I could fly.
Me, oh my!
I don't want to lose it
so what am I to do
to keep the sky so blue?
There must be someone who will buy...
We got a new photo of Sarah. It isn't very clear, but you can see her environment. I drove to
Friday, August 04, 2006
I stole these ideas from a yahoo group I belong to. I haven't tried them yet. I just wanted to put them somewhere I knew I won't lose them! Let me know if any of these ideas work for you! I am starting with the peanut butter getting scratches out of CD's. I have allot of DVD's I could just toss because Jessica (my 14 year old autistic daughter) put them on her floor. She always manages to find what I hide from her. DVD's are one of her new favorite things to get into. So sad! So sad!
42 Great Tips-
2. Pam cooking spray will dry finger nail polish
3. Cool whip will condition your hair in 15 minutes
4. Mayonnaise will KILL LICE, it will also condition your hair
5. Elmer's Glue - paint on your face, allow it to dry, peel off and
see the dead skin and blackheads if any
6. Shiny Hair - use brewed Lipton Tea
7. Sunburn - empty a large size Nestea into your bath water
8. Minor burn - Colgate or Crest toothpaste
9. Burn your tongue? Put sugar on it!
10. Arthritis WD-40 Spray and rub in, kill insect stings too
11. Bee stings - meat tenderizer
12. Chigger bite - Preparation H
13. Puffy eyes - Preparation H
14. Paper cut - crazy glue or Chap Stick (glue is used instead of
sutures at most hospitals)
15. Stinky feet - Jello!
16. Athletes feet - cornstarch
17. Fungus on toenails or fingernails - Vicks vapor rub
18. Kool aid to clean dishwasher pipes. Just put in the detergent
section and run a cycle, it will also clean a toilet.
19. Kool Aid can be used as a dye in paint also Kool Aid in Dannon
plain yogurt as a finger paint, your kids will love it and it won't
hurt them if they eat it!
20. Peanut butter - will get scratches out of CD's! Wipe off with a
coffee filter paper
21. Sticking bicycle chain - Pam no-stick cooking spray
22. Pam will also remove paint, and grease from your hands!? Keep a
can in your garage for your hubby
23. Peanut butter will remove ink from the face of dolls
24. When the doll clothes are hard to put on, sprinkle with corn
starch and watch them slide on
25. Heavy dandruff - pour on the vinegar!
26. Body paint - Crisco mixed with food coloring. Heat the Crisco in
the microwave, pour in to an empty film container and mix with the
food color of your choice!
27. Tie Dye T-shirt - mix a solution of Kool Aid in a container, tie
a rubber band around a section of the T-shirt and soak
28. Preserving a newspaper clipping - large bottle of club soda and
cup of milk of magnesia, soak for 20 min. and let dry, will last for
many years!
29. A Slinky will hold toast and CD's!
30. To keep goggles and glasses from fogging, coat with Colgate
toothpaste
31. Wine stains, pour on the Morton salt and watch it absorb into the
salt.
32. To remove wax - Take a paper towel and iron it over the wax
stain, it will absorb into the towel.
33. Remove labels off glassware etc. rub with Peanut butter!
34. Baked on food - fill container with water, get a Bounce paper
softener and the static from the Bounce towel will cause the baked on
food to adhere to it.? Soak overnight. Also; you can use 2 Efferdent
tablets, soak overnight!
35. Crayon on the wall - Colgate toothpaste and brush it!
36. Dirty grout - Listerine
37. Stains on clothes - Colgate
38. Grass stains - Karo Syrup
39. Grease Stains - Coca Cola, it will also remove grease stains from
the driveway overnight. We know it will take corrosion from car
batteries!
40. Fleas in your carpet 20 Mule Team Borax- sprinkle and let stand
for 24 hours. Maybe this will work if you get them back again.
41. To keep FRESH FLOWERS longer Add a little Clorox, or 2 Bayer
aspirin, or just use 7-up instead of water.
42. When you go to buy bread in the grocery store, have you ever
wondered which is the freshest, so you "squeeze" for freshness or
softness Did you know that bread is delivered fresh to the stores
five days a week Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday. Each
day has a different color twist tie. They are: Monday = Blue, Tuesday
= Green, Thursday = Red Friday = White and Saturday = Yellow. So if
today was Thursday, you would want red twist tie; not white which is
Fridays (almost a week old)! The colors go alphabetically by color
Blue- Green - Red - White - Yellow, Monday through Saturday. Very
easy to remember. I thought this was interesting. I looked in the
grocery store and the bread wrappers DO have different twist ties,
and even the ones with the plastic clips have different colors. You
learn something new everyday! Enjoy fresh bread when you buy bread
with the right color on the day you are shopping.
Wednesday, August 02, 2006
Hi, Jessica is still sleeping in Sarah's bed (or at least the bed we had bought for her). The room isn’t that big, so we just ordered her a new (smaller) bed. I love it! I think I will be able to
FedEx the final paper work to our agency on Friday. God willing our papers will go to
Report: Mass bunker under Shanghai
Facility could shelter 200,000 people, newspaper says
SHANGHAI, China (AP) -- Shanghai has constructed a massive underground bunker complex capable of sheltering 200,000 people from a nuclear attack, a local newspaper reported.
The million-square-foot complex connects to shopping centers, office buildings, apartment buildings and the subway system via miles of tunnels, the Shanghai Morning Post said in an exclusive report.
The newspaper said the complex has water, electricity, lighting, ventilation and protective doors, and can support life for as long as two weeks.
The Saturday report didn't say when the complex was finished or whether it was built with any specific threats in mind.
In recent years, the city of 20 million has recovered its role as
China targets sex-choice abortions
BEIJING, China (AP) -- A Chinese family planning official has said the government will still punish people who intentionally abort baby girls even though the legislature decided in June not to make it a crime, state media reports.
The official Xinhua News Agency quoted Zhang Weiqing, an official with the State Commission for Population and Family Planning, as saying that the government would continue to prosecute institutions and individuals involved in illegal sex-selective abortions.
Xinhua said late Tuesday that the government has prosecuted 3,000 cases of fetus gender identification and selective abortions for non-medical reasons over the past two years, without giving details.
A three-decade-old policy limiting most couples to one child has made abortion a widely used method for controlling family size.
As a result, and due to a traditional preferences for sons,
In
In June,
Xinhua said that some lawmakers argued that it would be too difficult to collect evidence for prosecution and that pregnant women should have the right to know the gender of their unborn child.
Family planning experts and some legislators have argued that the lack of clear criminal penalties has encouraged the use of abortions by families who want a son.