I've gotten a few comments lately that I spend so much time with my kids, and need time for myself. I agree self time is important. Right now I have to take a hot bath if I want to be alone! Self time will come, and soon. Sarah begins Kindergarten in a few short months. In September all my kids will be in school again. Then I will have the whole morning to myself. Sure, I will still need to cook, clean, and shop but I will be alone. I'm a stay at home Mom. I worked outside the house for years but now I spend time with my kid’s full time! I love my "job". Trust me; I have a very strong identity apart from my kids. I have friends and interests apart from my kids. I don't have the time right now to spend a great deal of "self" time...but it's a transitional time. I want more time with Juergen. We use to have a babysitter a few times a month. We need to prepare Sarah to have a babysitter. I want to get out with my man. I love my girlfriends but I want to go out with Juergen! Don't worry about me. I'm doing what I wanted to do. I'm spending my days cooking make believe cookies with my Chinese princess. I'm receiving the hugs and kisses I waited so long to receive. I'm no longer staring at the picture of a child waiting in an orphanage halfway around the world! I'm 45 years old. I've had plenty of time for myself. I'm sure I will have plenty of time again. Now I am doing what so many of you are counting the days to do...I'm falling in love with my new baby!